Boy Meets Girl Act 4 Truth and Trust

Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.
~Aldous Huxley

I pose a question to you dear readers: If you know something about your significant other's past and are okay with it, are you required to tell your family?

My ex had a past that was less than clean. I had found out about it by accident when I went through the state circuit court website. I asked him about it and his response, although it is not necessarily a good thing, was acceptable to me. I went ahead and ignored this issue. However, my dad used the same method and found out what I knew. What happened next was the start of a downward spiral.

Dad considered it all a lie. My ex was lazy and could not do anything right. He would take shortcuts in helping Dad and spent most of the time smoking and none working. Eventually he had enough and we were kicked out. So the grand plan was done. I had given up my job and apartment and done what was asked of me and found myself on the street. Actually, had I been willing to ditch my boyfriend then I would have been all right. But I was young, stupid, and in love.

My Grandparents let us stay with them but I was already starting to crack. A whirlwind of events were beginning. Because of it my new job was starting to falter. My ex was attempting to find work, but needed a car.

He talked me into finding a house instead of finding an apartment. So at the age of 21, with no down payment or money in the bank, I was the owner of a house. The paperwork was far too easy to have go through.

Less than a month after the paperwork was signed, I lost my job. My ex caused that, he had managed to talk a friend into lending him the money for a car and he used his free time that should have been finding a job to come bother me at work. It was used in a list of offenses that were false.

I was facing huge loans and a house and no money coming in. This led to a year of temp jobs and working retail. I still was not snapping out of the delusion though.


Anonymous January 28, 2010 at 12:11 AM  

One has to be wary of things that progress too fast. If its too good to be true it probably is.

shanaz@MyReverie January 28, 2010 at 3:01 PM  

If it is something that is very personal, and that your significant other wants it to be kept a secret, at first, there's nothing wrong with it. I do agree with the commenter above though, that when you're just simply pushed to do things without even considering yourself and your family in that matter, something's wrong there. And you know it.

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Wilmaryad Oscallas February 1, 2010 at 2:07 PM  

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Anonymous February 6, 2010 at 9:39 AM  

Well I assent to but I about the collection should secure more info then it has.


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